Most women alive today, at least in America, would probably identify themselves as feminists. However, what most people don’t understand is that feminism is a demonic tool and trick of the devil designed to destroy marriages, families and relationships between men and women for the destruction of society. And it’s working precisely as it has been intended all along. The purpose of this article is to illustrate the false premises on which the demonic philosophy of feminism is built, and its ultimate aims, so that some women and men might wake up to discover just how totally duped American society has been since the advent of feminism in the 1970s.
Feminism seeks to redefine the nature of the relationship between men and women. When boiled down to its essence, this social philosophy and movement seeks to reverse the traditional roles of men and women in society and how the two genders engage with one another. If your aim is to destroy a culture and a civilization, feminism is a powerful tool in your arsenal of dirty tricks. If your aim is to help men and women learn how to engage effectively and harmoniously with one another, you don’t start with a destructive social philosophy and movement. Instead you start with the basic design that all of mankind has been blessed with by God, in His user’s manual for wise living, the KJV Bible.
I should premise all of what follows with a brief explanation of my expertise and knowledge in this area. Roughly 11 years ago, I was inspired to search out what has been written on the subject of strategic fatherhood so that I might learn how to become the strategic coach to my three children that my own father had been incapable of being for me during my teenage and young adulthood years. That inspiration led me to some profoundly wise teachings that had been researched and compiled by Pastor Robert Lewis from Bible Fellowship Church in Little Rock, Arkansas in the form of his three years of teaching materials on men’s issues entitled, Men’s Fraternity. I am forever indebted and grateful to Robert Lewis for his groundbreaking and profoundly important work which has inspired thousands of men across America over the past 20 years or so. In his work, Lewis properly led many of us back into the Bible to see what it has to teach us about how to effectively engage with a woman; in particular, with our wives.
Sadly, Bible literacy is at an all-time low in America and the world today and so to properly understand how men and women are intrinsically designed and wired, we’re going to have to go back to this blueprint for all effective human relations to see what it has to teach us. I will freely admit that I was utterly astounded at what it has to teach all of us, primarily because I grew up in the 1970s and was thoroughly indoctrinated in the lies of feminism as I became a young adult and it had never even occurred to me that there might be any other design or way for men and women, husbands and wives to engage with one another. But there is; and it is well hidden by design.
The simple truth is that men and women are not the same. We are quite different in many important ways. This reality should come as no surprise to anyone, but in our era of mind-controlled indoctrination in which all truth is actively suppressed and lies are being promoted endlessly into our culture and to our youth in particular, this reality is crucial to understand and accept. Women tend to interact with the world through their feeling gates and most men tend to operate more from an analytical perspective. What few people understand is that this is part of God’s intentional design. Likewise, God has designed men and women with different roles, strengths and limitations so that we might complement, not compete with one another, in the context of marriage and the family. Men are designed to be the heads of our families in which God calls us to function as the primary provider, protector, teacher and leader in our homes. In such a daunting role of profound responsibility for others entrusted to our care, we men desperately need some help in the form of our women and wives, who God has designed to support and encourage us in our roles as our help mates.
For this divine design to function effectively, both men and women need to feel as though their core needs are being met, and not surprisingly, men and women differ on what we need from one another. For a woman to be willing to support, honor and respect her husband, she needs to feel safe, appreciated and honored for her roles in the marriage relationship and it is the wise husband who makes every effort to show his wife the security, appreciation and honor she craves from him. Likewise, for a man to be effective in his daunting role as a servant-leader for his wife and kids, he desperately needs to feel respect from them. Otherwise, a man will inevitably come to feel used and undermined in what he is trying to do to benefit and bless his wife and kids and he is likely to become angry and resentful over it.
With this framework and basic design in mind, the New Testament of the Bible is amazingly coherent and consistent in what it teaches husbands, wives and children to do for one another to live in harmony with one another. Let’s examine all of those relevant passages, none of which contradict one another in the least:
“But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ (the Messiah): and the head of the woman is man: and the head of Christ (the Messiah) is God (Eloah). Every man praying or prophesying, having his head covered (as in wearing a Jewish yarmulke), dishonoureth his head. But every woman that prayeth or prophesieth with her head uncovered dishonoureth her head: for that is even all one as if she were shaven (i.e. appearing as a prostitute). For if the woman be not covered, let her also be shorn: but if it be a shame for a woman to be shorn or shaven, let her be covered (protected). For a man indeed ought not to cover his head, forasmuch as he is the image and glory of God (Eloah): but the woman is the glory of man. For the man is not of the woman; but the woman of the man. Neither was the man created for the woman; but the woman for the man. For this cause ought the woman to have power on her head because of the angels. Nevertheless neither is the man without the woman, neither the woman without the man, in the Lord (our Adon). For as the woman is of the man, even so is the man also by the woman; but all things of God (Eloah). Judge in yourselves: is it comely that a woman pray unto God uncovered? Doth not even nature itself teach you, that, if a man have long hair, it is a shame unto him? But if a woman have long hair, it is a glory to her: for her hair is given to her for a covering.” 1 Corinthians 11:3-15
All of this discussion about a woman having a covering on her head is a symbol for her being under the protection of a godly man and her deferring or yielding to his headship over her for her protection.
“Let your women keep silence in the churches: for it is not permitted unto them to speak; but they are commanded to be under obedience, as also saith the law. And if they will learn any thing, let them ask their husbands at home: for it is a shame for women to speak in the church.” 1 Corinthians 14:34-35
This teaching of the Apostle Paul may seem rather harsh in our overly-permissive western culture. But keep in mind that in the first century Roman Empire, women were not permitted to even listen to religious teachings, which were restricted to men only. So it was quite radical for women to be even permitted to listen to teachings from the more spiritually mature men of their home church movements. However, the teaching is backed by 1 Timothy 2:11-15, which appears later in this article that explains that women are not permitted to teach, nor to usurp authority over a man, because women are more easily deceived than men are. As much as modern day women may bristle today at such a notion, the fact that the vast majority of American women who profess themselves to be followers of Yahushua have succumbed to the blatant falsehoods of modern day feminism prove conclusively that this difference between men and women is just as true today, as it was in the first century A.D.
“Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord (our Adon). For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ (the Messiah) is head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ (the Messiah), so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing. Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ (the Messiah) loved the church, and gave himself for it; That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish. So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord (the Messiah) the church. For we are members of his body (the community of believers), of his flesh, and of his bones. For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh. This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ (the Messiah) and the church. Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence (respect) her husband.” Ephesians 5:22-33
Here, the Apostle Paul is revealing and explaining the complementary roles of husbands and wives. Wives are called to submit to their husband’s headship and husbands are called to love and cherish their wives and both are called to live in oneness and unity with one another. Notice that where husbands are commanded to sacrificially love their wives as Christ laid down His life for the church, wives responses are to respect their husbands, if marriages are to be harmonious and mutually supportive one one another.
“Children, obey your parents in the Lord (our Adon): for this is right. Honour thy father and mother; which is the first commandment with promise; That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth. And ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord (our Adon). Ephesians 6:1-4
Children are commanded to obey and honor their parents in obedience to the fourth commandment. If they don’t, their lives may be cut short. Likewise, fathers are commanded to not be harsh with their children, but to nurture them and warn them how to live wisely, as Christ has taught us in His word, the Bible.
“Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as it is fit in the Lord (the Messiah). Husbands, love your wives, and be not bitter against them. Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well and pleasing to the Lord (our Adon). Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.” Colossians 3:18-21
Notice how this passage perfectly mirrors the teachings of Ephesians 5:22-33 and 6:1-4.
“Let the woman learn in silence with all subjection. But I suffer not a woman to teach, nor to usurp authority over the man, but to be in silence. For Adam was first formed, then Eve. And Adam was not deceived, but the woman being deceived was in the transgression. Notwithstanding she shall be saved in childbearing, if they continue in faith and charity and holiness with sobriety.” 1 Timothy 2:11-15
This passage really rankles most self-professing Christian women today who have been raised on a feast of feminist nonsense and rebellion and who have been taught that they can do everything a man does, and probably better than he can. Virtually every form of church today defies and disobeys this commandment of God to their collective shame and disgrace. Yet no one has the courage to ever speak up and bring correction to this grievous error.
What the Apostle Paul is teaching here is not that women are second class citizens who should be kept in their places. Rather, he is teaching all of us that men and women have separate and distinct roles to play and a woman’s role is to model submission to her husband and to God in all she does. Similarly, a godly husband and father is to model submission to his head, Christ, in all he says and does as well, for the benefit of his wife and children so that they will learn to imitate his good example.
1 Timothy 3 addresses the qualifications of elders or bishops and deacons in a church community. In all cases, these roles are ones of leadership and responsibility for the care of those under their spiritual protection and once again, we see that such roles are strictly the responsibility of godly men whose characters and trustworthiness have been tested and proven repeatedly. Their worthiness is to be assessed in terms of how well they lead and manage their own homes. And yet today, we routinely witness women occupying the roles of elders and deacons in many forms of organized religion, who bring shame and dishonor to those communities of fraudulent believers.
“That the aged men be sober, grave, temperate, sound in faith, in charity, in patience. The aged women likewise, that they be in behavior as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things; That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God (Eloah) be not blasphemed. Young men likewise exhort to be sober minded.” Titus 2:2-6
Here, the Apostle Paul is teaching and mentoring his protégé, Titus, to teach older women to lead younger women by their own good examples to love their husbands and children and to obey their husbands. In everything Paul teaches, he is exhorting woman to model modesty and deference to men and for men to protect, provide for, teach and lead their wives, children and younger men through their humble and godly examples.
“Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation (meaning good conduct) of the wives; While they behold your chase conversation (conduct) coupled with fear. Whose adorning let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair, and of wearing gold, or of putting on apparel; but let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God (Eloah) of great price. For after this manner in the old time the holy women also, who trusted in God (Eloah), adorned themselves, being in subjection unto their own husbands: Even as Sara obeyed Abraham, calling him lord: whose daughters ye are, as long as ye do well, and are not afraid with any amazement.” 1 Peter 3:1-6
Here, we see the Apostle Peter teaching the same theme to women of conducting themselves in humility with a quiet spirit as a godly example to others.
“Likewise, ye husbands dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.” 1 Peter 3:7
Here we see Peter teaching husbands to show our wives honor and appreciation for all our wives do for us. And note the caution if we fail to do so: our prayers might be hindered.
We have now visited every one of the New Testament passages that teach God’s design for healthy, godly marriage relationships. There is nothing the least bit ambiguous or contradictory in any of these passages. God is the same yesterday, today and forever. His truths simply do not change. His design for healthy and effective marriage relationships between men and women remains that which it has always been, as explained in these Bible passages which we have reviewed together. So how did we mess things up so completely and gotten things so very wrong?
Quite simply, the devil and his “useful idiots” used the media and institutions of brainwashing, posing as schools and universities, to relentlessly appeal to a woman’s pride, just as the serpent beguiled Eve in the Garden of Eden and convinced her that God was holding out on her. You see, there is nothing new under the sun, as King Solomon told us.
After the fall in the Garden, God cursed mankind:
“Unto the woman he said, I will greatly multiple thy sorrow and thy conception; in sorrow shalt thou bring forth children; and thy desire shall be to they husband, and he shall rule over thee.” Genesis 3:16 (Boldface added for emphasis)
In Strong’s Concordance, the Hebrew word for desire is Strong’s 8669, which means a longing or desire and then it refers to Strong’s 7783 which means to run after or over. The only other time Strong’s 8669 is used in the Bible is in Genesis 4:7 where God is talking to Cain shortly before he murdered his brother, Abel, which reads,
“If thou doest well, shalt thou not be accepted? and if thou doest not well, sin lieth at the door. And unto thee shall be his desire, and thou shalt rule over him.”
So in this context, desire is used as a synonym for to lie in wait, as in for prey. Returning to Genesis 3:16 then, the curse upon all women from that day forth was that they would lie in wait to pounce on their prey, their husbands, whom God would make their heads. Ever since, women have been cursed with the desire to manipulate and take control over their husbands and feminism is the manifestation of that curse upon women and the human race.
Ultimately, feminism was all about reversing the roles of men and women and women taking over the roles of men in the homes and making men rather expendable and superfluous, other than as ATM machines and sperm donors. After all, the motto of NOW, the National Organization of Women in the 1970s, was “Women need men about as much as fish need bicycles.” It was a clear and overt declaration of war by women against men and everyone has lost from it, most of all the children of such dysfunctional and demonized marriages. In 1950, according to Robert Lewis, only 7% of homes with children living in them under the age of 18 were without fathers. By 2000, a mere 50 years later, 40% of such homes were fatherless. And the hard truth is that for children to grow up healthy and well-adjusted, they desperately need both healthy male and female role models in the home, each of whom bring different and unique skills, abilities, gifts and modeling to their biological children. When we compare virtually every metric of societal health in America from 1950 to 2000, the trend line is abysmal and quite negative and the root cause of it is the absence of healthy fathers in the home and feminism is the number one contributor to this unmitigated social disaster.
When women seek to compete with men, men don’t fight their women. We withdraw or leave. God has wired us to protect and provide for our women; not to compete with them for dominance in the home. Today, America is raising multiple generations of angry, confused, clueless women who are living alone or as single mothers and blaming men for it. The children from these broken homes are undisciplined, spoiled brats with virtually no sense of responsibility for themselves or for others and a sense of profound entitlement and dependence upon others. Be careful what you wish for. Today, many American women are reaping the whirlwind that their own ignorance and foolishness has sown. They now have what they wished for. They were sold a bill of goods by someone who definitely did not have their best interests at heart. At the same time, American manhood is in a deep tailspin, and everybody knows it. Most men have no clue what hit them and no hope of ever emerging from the train wreck of their lives other than though placing all their hope and trust in God.
Does this not seem like the end to you? It most assuredly does to me. This story cannot possibly have a happy ending for most. Many people are casualties of the demonic philosophy of feminism and the curse of women insisting on being in control and dominant in the home. Men and women simply aren’t wired that way by God.
“What God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.” Matthew 19:6